Goal Oriented

[playpunk]

My wife is very goal oriented. She wants to run 1500 miles this year, and she is going to, has run a bunch of marathons, etc.

Right now, she really wants to get pregnant. This is my favorite goal of hers yet.

[Luke51411]

The key is not to accomplish this goal TOO quickly

[GermanCdn]

The key is not to accomplish this goal TOO quickly

Yeah, that's what I thought too, but 7 years later we still haven't been successful.  Knock it out of the park early, no amount of procreative activities is worth the look of disappointment in your wife's eyes after the first few months (and truthfully, getting pregnant sex is not as much fun as it sounds, especially when you start planning your business schedule around it).  We'll be going the adoption route next year most likely.

[Luke51411]

I'm sorry if I offended in my attempt to be humorous. This is a process that is completely foreign to me as my wife and I plan on not having children, I didn't mean to trivialize the process.

[GermanCdn]

I'm sorry if I offended in my attempt to be humorous. This is a process that is completely foreign to me as my wife and I plan on not having children, I didn't mean to trivialize the process.

No offense taken, the joke I had going for the first six months was "Well, if I have to fail at something...."

[playpunk]

I probably shouldn't be so cavalier - it was a very fast process with our first two. The enthusiasm has just been ramped up this go round for some reason.

Maybe it's all of those sexy guitar skills and pedals.

[culturejam]

Yeah, that's what I thought too, but 7 years later we still haven't been successful.  Knock it out of the park early, no amount of procreative activities is worth the look of disappointment in your wife's eyes after the first few months (and truthfully, getting pregnant sex is not as much fun as it sounds, especially when you start planning your business schedule around it).  We'll be going the adoption route next year most likely.

This was pretty much my experience as well. Took us 5 years to get pregnant, and then only through IVF. We were strongly considering adoption if things didn't pan out. And we still are considering adoption if we decide that one kid isn't enough.

[flanagan0718]

I took my wife on a cruise...that seemed to do the trick! Boat + Liquor + Wife = Daughter. 

[muddyfox]

two adoptions into it, i can tell you i've had enough.
its quite a process here and i cant do it anymore. these two are a handful anyways.

[RobA]

Yeah, that's what I thought too, but 7 years later we still haven't been successful.  Knock it out of the park early, no amount of procreative activities is worth the look of disappointment in your wife's eyes after the first few months (and truthfully, getting pregnant sex is not as much fun as it sounds, especially when you start planning your business schedule around it).  We'll be going the adoption route next year most likely.

This was pretty much my experience as well. Took us 5 years to get pregnant, and then only through IVF. We were strongly considering adoption if things didn't pan out. And we still are considering adoption if we decide that one kid isn't enough.

Us too. It took us two rounds of IVF to get it to work. The first one that failed was pretty crushing. The second round took a bunch of research from my wife and our embryologist to be successful and even then it was totally emotionally wrenching and almost didn't work.  We were considering adoption at the time too and might have gone for it if we'd had any cash reserves left after the IVF cycles.

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No offense taken, the joke I had going for the first six months was "Well, if I have to fail at something...."

I remember thinking similar things. This is one of those things were it really helps if you can keep your sense of (dark) humor.

[culturejam]

Us too. It took us two rounds of IVF to get it to work.

We were lucky and got pregnant on the first round/first try. And I'm soooooo glad (for my wife, mostly), because we harvested ~11 eggs, then 5 fertilized properly, of which only 3 were viable...and then only 1 survived being frozen and un-frozen. So we really had only one egg for the basket.    If it hadn't worked, we would have had to start all over again with the 8 weeks of daily injections, another egg harvesting procedure (which for those that don't know is under general anesthesia), and all that.  It's quite a process and is very emotionally demanding, especially for the women.