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General => Open Discussion => Topic started by: pryde on June 08, 2014, 03:37:25 PM

Title: Shocked and Saddened.
Post by: pryde on June 08, 2014, 03:37:25 PM
It is not my intention to bum anyone out but I feel a need to share my loss, perhaps as a way to cope. Just yesterday a good friend, fellow musician, and super-good guy took his own life. He was struggling with some mental health issues for a while but honestly no one realized how deeply troubled he was.

We played guitar together and I built him a couple pedals just because I liked the guy so much. I wish I could have been more perceptive to his struggles and reached out to him more. Just sad, thanks for listening.
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Post by: midwayfair on June 08, 2014, 03:48:03 PM
I'm sorry for your loss. :(
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Post by: chordball on June 08, 2014, 04:11:08 PM
Sorry for your loss. One of my best friends just did the same thing almost 2 months ago now. I had known him for 17 years. Some days are good, some days are really hard and you never know when it will hit you again. You just can't replace someone like that. Feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to.
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Post by: micromegas on June 08, 2014, 04:39:06 PM
Sorry man. Just remember him as the good guy he was.
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Post by: PhiloB on June 08, 2014, 05:30:54 PM
Sounds like you were a good friend.  Sorry for your loss. 
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Post by: jrod on June 08, 2014, 05:59:53 PM
Sorry for your loss.
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Post by: gtr2 on June 08, 2014, 07:27:49 PM
My condolences.

Josh
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Post by: muddyfox on June 08, 2014, 08:10:08 PM

This sucks a big one. While I haven't been through anything like that, I'll echo the sentiment that the best you can do by him is to remember the fun times.


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Post by: atreidesheir on June 08, 2014, 08:51:31 PM
I know how that hurts.
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Post by: mah62 on June 08, 2014, 09:00:08 PM
So sad. I feel your pain.

Mark
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Post by: Leevibe on June 08, 2014, 10:57:48 PM
That is incredibly sad. I hurt for you. No question you were a good friend to him.
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Post by: rullywowr on June 08, 2014, 11:24:23 PM
That is so sad to hear.  Had this happen myself a while back.  My condolences,  keep on keepin on.
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Post by: pryde on June 09, 2014, 12:15:34 AM
Thanks everyone. Its been a damn tough day. I got out from under my rock and did some trail running while listening to a mix of Smashing Pumpkins in his honor (one of his very favorite bands). Felt mentally pretty good actually.

   
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Post by: jtn191 on June 09, 2014, 12:27:35 AM
Sorry to hear it. I don't know if it had anything to do with it but these are tough times for musicians, the downtrodden, and lonely. I've lost some friends before and it stays with me and I can only imagine in that circumstance.
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Post by: brucer on June 09, 2014, 12:30:06 AM
I'm really very sorry to hear about your friend.  Mental health and loss are big issues.  I think it's great that you've reached out for support here, that you're honouring your friend and taking care of yourself.  Seriously, that's massive.  Sending good thoughts your way.
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Post by: selfdestroyer on June 09, 2014, 12:32:25 AM
This is terrible news, I am sorry for the loss of your friend. Its acts like these that shows how fragile our lives can be. It will be a healing process for sure and don't deny yourself that. It i needed for sure. My thoughts will be with you during this hard time. Stay strong.

Cody
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Post by: GrindCustoms on June 09, 2014, 12:32:35 AM
I can feel every bit of your struggle mate, my whole left forearm is tatooed in memory of my friends that i've lost in misunderstanding.... and I've lost my dad in that manner 2.5 years ago.... getting a huge Phoenix tattooed on my right ribs in his memory this autumn.

I still think about and remember the good times spent with those people everyday of my life.

Hang in there mate. ;)

Rej
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Post by: sonarchotic on June 09, 2014, 12:39:58 AM
Sorry to hear that. I've lost some close friends as well and it's tough to not have them there anymore. I think your headphones and running therapy is one of the best things you can do.
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Post by: lincolnic on June 09, 2014, 04:10:01 AM
Sorry for your loss - take care of yourself as best you can.
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Post by: juansolo on June 09, 2014, 12:59:04 PM
:( It's horrible to lose friends. My condolences. :(
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Post by: flanagan0718 on June 09, 2014, 02:02:18 PM
I myself have lost a few close friends to similar circumstances. Its a horrible thing and very hard to deal with. I am very sorry for your loss. Hope all is well.